Resurrection of Love In Our Blessing Life: Lessons Learned

 Our blessed children feeling at home in nature!

“…now I understand I was in fact running away from my internal problems rather than truly caring about THE Mission”!-Mathew

As I have been reflecting on this years motto” …absolute sexual ethics…”, I offer these few hard won lessons, I have learned in my course of Blessing with my wife.

Sexual Purity As an Act of Love for My Spouse
For many years, I have been unclear how to practice “Absolute pure sex”, that Father Moon has been speaking about!  I  have finally, realized that,  just not committing  the illicit sexual relationship, or  not having lustful thoughts, most of the time, is not truly practicing it! I discovered, that I must furthermore, avoid any situation, which even in the slightest way, may threaten the purity of my love for my spouse.

Since I have committed myself to this higher level of fidelity, I definitely have experienced the melting away of many feelings of impurity and self-accusation, which naturally, has resulted in us getting much closer as a couple.When we deny our body, in daily life, overcoming infidelity in our hearts, it is indeed, an act of true love towards our spouse!

One of our earliest photos together

This act of love, adds to the conjugal passion we have for each other, as we  wait for the moment to come, in our day or week, to enjoy each other, centered on God’s love, free from guilt or double mindedness.

Mission Versus Family
 …In the first months of our family life, I would leave my wife for weeks sometimes to join a Church, CARP or RYS activity – but with little regard or sensitivity to her feelings.  As a result, we also had some arguments and struggles.
I made my spouse very unhappy at times. I deeply regret this, and now I understand I was in fact running away from my internal problems rather than truly caring about THE Mission. But, later on, I discovered,  that my spouse was there to help me fulfill my mission, instead of being the problem! I simply had to care for her and win her heart, first !

Conjugal love and Serving the Community
As we broke through many aspects of conjugal love, our relationship became more mature and harmonious.   We finally felt ready to start doing public mission; so, we volunteered in helping with Second Generation workshops…As we reflected on our level of commitment to public life as a couple, we could see, we had truly matured to much greater degree than, before, we had this higher level of unity in our conjugal love.

Valuing my wife more than myself
…I have  realized that my wife has a standard which is higher than mine, more selfless.She is my walking conscience!! I used to get envious, as she was more righteous than me! But now, I  feel gratitude than envy, and I receive her as an expression of God’s and True Parents amazing love for me!

Hugging
I guess I am lucky as my wife is quick to point out if I am not hugging her enough or giving enough conjugal affection.This is usually because I am “somewhere else” in my mind; and, now I try harder to be more attentive to her needs for my affection.

Whenever we hug, the children come and join in and we have a big family hug, or my eldest daughter comes and sighs as daddy and mummy are hugging!  Since she was a toddler she used to squeeze between us  to have a hug too.They love it. And that scene, is one of the greatest witness to the power of Blessing, for me…That is what it is all about after all!
I believe the conjugal affection, those little gestures of love during the day long, are the vital point of the relationship.  As the old saying goes: “For woman day determines night while for man night determines the day.”

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About Us

Our Family History and Vision
We were determined to have 13 children (as Father had taught), as we were fortunate to be blessed very young ( 19 and 21)and start family life in mid twenties, we made a commitment to go ahead and have a large family.With God`s help we reached our minimum goal`in this area and are truly blessed with our 4 daughters and two sons.

We are homeschooling to protect our children’s purity on this most vulnerable stage 
and help them develop their desire to learn through interacting with nature and each other. Living in this beautiful environment ( as Kent is called Garden of England), surrounded by the Kentish countryside, we came to deeply appreciate God`s creation and His love to us expressed through it, as well as all the wisdom of the old generation and their “old ways”. 
 
In our gratitude, we came to realize how important it its to be truly responsible for All Things,
taking care of God’s Creation and not abusing it but using it wisely and living in harmony with it. My dream is to build an ideal family with 4 generations living together. With the Great grandparents, grandparents and parents the children will be surrounded by love and wisdom.

We have been enjoying fellowship online with UC members and relatives,  and we also meet regularly my mum, paternal grandfather ( aged 90), my sister and her family and some other relatives and friends living locally. I have also met and blessed a lot of good people (my postal rounds are in the countryside)
and enjoy lots of hobby life like hunting, gardening and simple bush craft. 

Our Tribal Messiahship History and Vision 
We did not exactly follow the external mission path; after 3 years of CARP and RYS mission in South Wales , we chose to follow the hometown providence and move to the countryside in county of Kent, in England.

Many years ago, we also set up our family website, explaining about the Blessing as well as trying to witness as a Blessed family in our humble way. My wife is also running an online discussion and support group for Polish speaking mums ( 40 members ) non members which give mutual support to each other. She also created a Polish language website with advice about childcare, natural pregnancy and childbirth, herbal remedies,aromatherapy and other holistic methods.  We consider it as our service to the community, a way to help people to become better, more conscious parents.

Being the only Blessed couple within 50 miles radius, wherever we moved, we joined local Christian communities for worship. For a while we lived opposite a Spiritualist Church which we visited regularly.It was a very interesting experience. 

We finally have come  through the stage of organizing our own family service and, now, joining the  iUnificationist Cyber Congregation, as one of its pioneering members, for which we are truly grateful for.